— HUMAN —
We have been hearing a lot of cases of suicide from past few months. And the worst part is, children below the age of 12 do plan, attempt, and successfully commit suicide. What is suicide? Suicide, like every one of us knows is the act of killing oneself. But why are people killing themselves? The answer to this question is very simple. People have become hopeless.
According to psychologists, most people who attempt or commit suicide don’t really want to die – they just want their pain and suffering to end. Over 90 percent of people who die by suicide have a mental illness at the time of their death. And the most common mental illness is depression. Untreated depression is the number one cause for suicide.
It’s common for each one of us to be in depression and anxiety at some point of life. A wise man has once told me, “The person who is free from anxiety is one who is resting in his grave.” And that’s very true. I can say this because I too suffered from depression and anxiety. I thought to kill myself to get out of this pain and suffering.
I went for several counseling and had to take sleeping pills to put my brain at rest. I was at constant process of comparing my life with others. I had so much trouble in life; I couldn’t go to school and college properly. Someone has to be there with me all the time. I felt I was a burden on my parents. I started hating myself.
Then one day, one old wise man (my Grandpa) told me, “If you want to compare your life with others, then compare it with someone who has nothing.” For me that someone was myself. I felt I had nothing. Then he asked me, “Don’t you have your parents? Don’t you get your favorite food to eat? Don’t you get the clothes you like to wear? Don’t have your limbs, eyes, ears, tongue?” I was standing there cold. I had everything to be thankful in life and still I complained that I don’t have this or that. That was an eye opener for me. From there life moved on and I came out of depression.
My old man left this world and went to God. I was again getting into depression. This time I was ready for it with my old man’s lesson. I had a seed of hope inside me; for the fruit of life when I went to the Orphanage and Old age home at Ferrargunj. This visit totally changed me. Now, I respect life for whatever it gave me. I feel I am the happiest person in this world and I have the best of everything.
I don’t know what problems all of you are going through, but even then I ask you to wait and Hope. Hope is something which has given me all the strength to live. I am a person who was told that “You should not give your 12th standard board exams”, I am a person who was told that “You will never get a job and independent”, I am a person who was told that “You don’t deserve to be loved”, and I am the person who my family believed will never be able to live so long. All my problems were very real. My family had financial problems because of me (my dad sold our home to bring me up) and I had lot of heart aches (people don’t want to be in relationship with me). Finally I am in the happiest relationship and I got a home too.
Everyone has issues or problems in life. No one has got everything in life. God didn’t create any problem without solution; He didn’t create locks without keys. All I want you people, who are fighting wars inside themselves to have a little Hope. I want you to patiently search for the key of your lock. If you are ever in dilemma then ask God, am sure help will come.
Here is verse from the holy Bible, that explains it – “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.” Matthew 7:7
And here is what Quran says, “If Allah helps you, then there is none who can overcome you. If he forsakes you, then who else is there other than Him who can help you? Therefore, In Allah let the believers put their trust.” Surah 3 Al-i’Imran, Ayah 160
“The peace of God is with them whose mind and soul are in harmony, who are free from desire and wrath, who know their own soul.” – This is what The Bhagavad Gita tells us.
No faith in this world supports suicide. Suicide may be the answer to your pain but it’s not going to help the person who loves you. So don’t be selfish by ending the pain for yourself and putting the rest of your family in pain. Pain is real so is HOPE.
